true friendship

according to aristotle
true friendship can only occur
when two people are of equal status
and there are no exploitative elements in the friendship

meaning both people are friends simply for the sake of being friends.
not because they have money and status. not because they give them food.
not because they enjoy the same style of clothing, or music, or food, or life
style.
simply because they enjoy the others company.
and even then not because they are happy people.
or sad people.
or angry people.

true friendship depends on an unquestioning, all-accepting,
forever-helping attitude. where the only motivation is to be friends with someone
entirely for the other person's sake. not for your sake at all.
you are friends with them not because you want to, but because you want them
to have a good life.

philosophically, the purest of motivations are doing things simply and solely for other people.
its called being altruistic.

now honestly i aim endlessly to do things for others, but i get selfish too. and many many people are.

however to always aim to be altruistic is the best thing you can do.
to always think of other people. how to do things for others.

however there's some kind of help that all people enjoy, and some kind that nobody needs.
trying to help can go too far.
so use your social skills.

the point is, if you always try to be a good person, if you always do your best, [which you may think is
a fail sometimes, which is actually just a learning curve], well then you most likely will be a good person.

the people who don't care. who give up. who spend life being angry. bitter. closed off. judgemental.
they are the people who wish to find negative things.

you know how if you look for the salt in the pantry you just can't find it, you look everywhere, but
its invisible to you. you ask mum, and she finds it in seconds. well this happens because YOU
don't EXPECT to find it, so effectively you hide it from yourself.
however your MUM does EXPECT to find it, and so she does.

same with luck. or good fortune. however if you expect too much, then you get disappointed.
never expect. then you will be pleasantly surprised, by being patient and not expecting.
constantly do good things, and eventually someone will do something good for you too.
or you may have some good luck.
every one has bad luck and good luck every now and then though.
nobody lives in constant heaven. its impossible.
however you can Always and i mean Always
do something for someone else.

as Mark Twain says
"The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up."

again all the best in every way
C: Britta