Giving up, suicide, and other such lovely topics

I’ve written about bullies, I’ve written about how to find a reason to go on, how to find hope, in helping others, I’ve written about how self knowledge of one’s roots and origins can help oneself analyse and work through old hurts, old issues within one’s subconscious, things from high school, and childhood and so on. One thing I have not written about is giving up. There are times when giving up is necessary, when giving up means the end of a long and painful journey that you realise you have put yourself through because of your blind faith or belief. Sometimes you find out that all of that energy has just led to more pain, sometimes you find that giving up is the right way for your own healing. But I am not writing about those times today, I am writing about when not to give up. Sometimes it is necessary to give up on others, when you realize those other people are never going to help you forward, but to give up on yourself, to give in to others and allow them power over your own spirit, that to me is the deepest treachery one could commit.  When you get to that stage, or that place, where you feel you can never stand up again, where you feel the tears will never stop, or the loneliness is never ending, when you feel tempted to give up on yourself, dig deep, find that place within you that no one can change, no one can reach, and no one can know but yourself. Find it and see that you have power, you are a person, and that intrinsic fact allows you power, power to help others see through the layers in their minds that hide their true nature from themselves, the power to see yourself as others see you, the power to stand up for yourself, the power to inspire others, the power to help and teach and learn, the power to stand up for your friends, the power to stand up for what is right. You have power, you just don’t know it.

When you get to the stage where thoughts of suicide float around in your mind, you begin believing that the pain will never end, that you have to take things into your own hands and end the pain yourself, but what you don’t realize is that by ending your own pain you create ripples of pain in so many others, you give what you yourself wish to end, to others in spades, pain. When someone close to you dies, there is enough pain as it is, when someone close to you dies through their own hands you leave behind guilt in the people who feel they could have stopped you, you leave behind grief and misunderstanding as to your reasons for ending your life, you leave behind far more than your own pain, and to do this kind of thing, is so selfish it is beyond measure. You have every right to wallow in pain, you have every right to feel the keen edge of pain, but understand this, you are never alone, you are never the only one crying, reach out and you will realize there are so many others like you that you can help. All humans feel pain at one point in their life, it is part of life, it is part of humanity. But there are ways to work through it. The longer you ignore it, the longer you allow it to gouge away at your insides, the worse it gets. Once you acknowledge your pain, once you acknowledge that your pain is not your fault, once you accept the brunt of the pain and face it, it will pass away, it will not stay this way forever. You are not in pain, or sadness, every minute of every day are you? It comes, and it goes, just like thoughts, just like time, just like everything in this world does, life, love. True happiness is not the absence of pain, but the acceptance of all states of mind as just that, a state of mind that will pass.

Never give up on yourself, never stop believing in yourself, if you can believe in others to help them on their way do so as well. Have belief, stay strong, after all we are all in this together, always.