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ok so i go extreme.

and it IS over the top.

there are policeman who are very kind.
there are politicians who make mistakes.
there are teenagers who think they know everything about the world.
there's also people over reacting and getting a bit dramatic.

it sounds like i'm talking about others.
but i include myself.
because everybody makes mistakes. even me.
it looks like i planned this, but i do get very upset about society sometimes.
and i over-react. get too offended, and over-the-top doesn't always work.

police are here to protect us. they do the best they can in their job.
i don't believe they are out to get any one of us.

what i say doesn't apply to everybody.obviously. otherwise we'd be living in hell.Australia is a pretty good place.
we've got some good stuff going on in our country, some good traditions,
some really good, and kind people.i'm just here to tell you that there's always a way to improve.

just like my english essays. and writing.maybe i should say it like this:
one of my many teachers once explained to me that you're only Really
listening, if you listen with:
1. your ears
2. your eyes [watch their face]
and most importantly
3. your heart

people think how can she understand?
what is she on about?
she's just a child.
consider that i feel your emotions.

and please don't call it freaky. cos you know when your child is upset.
you know that your sister IS actually upset, when she says 'no' after you ask her if she's ok.
you know when the teachers getting impatient.
you know when your boss is in a bad mood.

and what? that means you're a freak too?
my emotional 'antennae' or whatever, is just a little extra sensitive.

not only that, the apparent ''magic'' that i perform, isn't really magic.
here's the magicians so called secret.

pay attention to people.
listen to them.
actually show you care about them.

i could reel of a list of people who i see daily
who do care, and who do tell many people that they care, and worry,
about others welfare.

also people think that i'm here to tell you off,
i'm here to say, do it better, find another way,
its not good enough.

wait tho! that's not what i'm saying.
this is not for me.
i'm not asking you to get happy about life,
so that i get happy.

i'm looking for you to get happy, simply and solely
so that you can be a little happier.

and i've written this in a past letter, but anyhow,
look at situations from six angles.

when your mum yells at you, consider this:
1. what time did she get up in the morning?
2. was the kitchen dirty?
3. what time did she get to work?
4. what happened at work, did she have a bad day?
5. did i scare her into yelling because she's SO worried?
6. did someone say something to her before i did, to make her upset?

or even with your teacher.
or your boss at work.

don't let something slide and say 'she insulted me, ah its fine.
i feel stupid talking about it anyway'.
eventually you'll get 50 of those, and end up crying over spilt milk.

just say something small, like 'that upset me', 'that offended me',
avoid 'you hurt me', 'you made me upset' because that's putting blame
onto somebody's shoulders, and will provoke a defensive stance.

every problem has at least two people involved.
if not 3,4,5,6,7,8 etc

simply say sorry straight away. don't let the problem grow
mouldy under the carpet.

just let someone know, that you didn't mean it like that.
that you weren't trying to offend them.

and then when someone says sorry, well often people think/say
'sorry's not good enough'
its hard to say sorry, and for those who feel a sorry is too hard to say in a meaningful way,
well do something small, like making a cup of tea, or opening the door for them when they're
holding a big pile of books, because that's the kind of small nice things that count the most.

so again, sorry for over-exaggerating.
everyone makes mistakes.
these notes don't apply to everybody,
the people it does apply to, you know who you are

ps. the metaphors/examples i use obviously aren't serious, they demonstrate a point
[i.e. teacher vs talking student = terrorism vs govt.] showing differences in point of view.